Britain’s National Health Service (NHS) has boldly taken a new approach to sexual health education. Their recent approach aims on addressing the rights of people (especially the youth) to enjoyable and healthy sex lives and highlighting the universal right to orgasms.
In its leaflet Pleasure released to the public in July 2009, which carries the slogan “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away,” NHS recommended masturbation or sex as part of a healthy lifestyle alongside exercise and a balanced diet. A few of the well-documented health benefits of sex include reduced stress, pain and anxiety, reduced risk of cardiovascular disease, and improved immunity.
Though the chances of this approach being replicated in the country is practically nil, those of us who openly celebrate sexuality can take extra comfort in the fact that reframing sex as a component of a healthy lifestyle challenges social stigmas around sexuality and realistically reflects the fact that sex does a body good.
But how much do we really know about sex? The word itself means different things to different people and great sex often involves a range of activities and a great deal of experimentation. There are downsides to it as well, and if like most people, you like to play daredevil and have unprotected sex regularly, you just might get some of the nasties which, at worst, would require medical intervention and a pile of hospital bills. The sexual jargon has thousands of words for body parts, sensual explorations, sexual disorders, diseases and fetishes which we could all find use for—if only to keep us informed, well-equipped, and safe.
So how about we go through some of them in the alphabet order?
A-Spot – Most of you have probably heard of the G-Spot, but the A-Spot is another exciting zone that can produce intense sexual pleasure as well as rapid lubrication and contractions in some women. Also known as the AFE (Anterior Fornix Erogenous) zone, this area of sensitivity is located at the deepest point of the vagina on the upper (anterior) wall where it begins to curve upwards. According to Malaysian researcher, Chua Chee Ann, PhD, who’s credited with “discovering” the A-Spot, this sensitive area is located beyond the G-Spot just above the cervix. Once there, you are to continue stroking and applying pressure on this spongy area until she begins to lubricate (or moan in a pitch you’ve never heard before).
BDSM – Playing out sexual fantasies can be a great way to explore new role-play identities. It’s not uncommon for powerful and dominant people to enjoy being submissive during sex play. BDSM describes sexual play that involves some exchange of power or pain. B stands for bondage, D stands for dominance and/or discipline, S stands for sadism (pleasure associated with inflicting pain) and/or submission and M stands for masochism (pleasure associated with receiving pain). BDSM activities may involve the use of hot wax, leather, massage oil, feather, silk scarves, among other things.
Condom – Though widely denigrated for muffling the sensations involved with bumping parts, the condom is and must always be regarded as a must-have during sex. Unless you’re making mini-you’s, that is. Nowadays, aside from being ultra thin, condoms also boast of excitement-enhancing features (for the ladies) such as bumps, ridges, vibrating cock rings (usually as an attachment), and sensitivity-enhancing gels.
For full stories, grab a copy of Men’s Health Philippines November 2010 issue in bookstores and newsstands near you.